You cannot make a long-term change in behaviors without addressing the beliefs that underlie them… Most humans try to change things by focusing on behaviors.
Use Your Pain as Energy to Rise Above It
“As I faced each tragedy in my life, I learned to reach into the depth of my soul for strength and determination. Through this
You Will Always be Codependent. Learn How to Keep It in Check.
“At its heart, codependency is a set of behaviors developed to manage the anxiety that comes when our primary attachments are formed with people who
Start Your Own Many Paths Facebook Grow Group
“It is the courage to be open and loving which is the manifestation of underlying strength and power. And it is only in embracing the
You Have to Save Yourself Every Day
“To stay in recovery, you must be responsible for finding your own motivation. Remember, motivation may not be easy to come by at first. It
Facebook Groups Help Join Us Together by Sharing Our Interests
“Traumatic events destroy the sustaining bonds between individual and community. Those who have survived learn that their sense of self, of worth, of humanity, depends
Are You an Empowered Empath? Join the Club.
“The sad thing that many of us empaths don’t realize is that often our desire to heal others is a disguised cry for help for
Give Yourself Permission to Move On When a Lifeline is not Working
Lifelines are the individual tools we use to learn about ourselves and others. These include hobbies revisited or new; books that help guide us to
The Daily Heartbreak of Having Loved Ones Living in Addiction
For those of us who have chosen to give up our addictions life can add a painful irony of having to live with a loved
Relapse May Be Undocumented Mental Illness
“There’s a peculiar thing that happens every time you get clean. You go through this sensation of rebirth. There’s something intoxicating about the process of
You Have Everything You Need to Heal–Try Using Your Creativity
“Everything you need to heal is inside yourself. You only need support and encouragement to listen to yourself—to your thoughts, feelings, imagery, and inner spiritual
We Grew Up So Fast We Skipped Childhood
“Most survivors grew up too fast. Their vulnerable child-selves got lost in the need to protect and deaden themselves. Reclaiming the inner child is part
Because We Have Minimized Depression, Most Sufferers go Undiagnosed
Depression is not sadness. It is not feeling blue. It is not a mood that will pass. It is living without hope. Without hope about
10 Minutes in the Morning can Control Your Day
The easiest way to integrate mediation into your life is to add it to whatever you are already doing. When you walk, use your mind
Staying Focused When You Don’t Know Your Direction
With the busy lives we live, it is easy to lose your focus. I spend time in the morning thinking over the day to come.
Finding Your Service Field
“Many times when we help we do not really serve. . . . Serving is also different from fixing. One of the pioneers of the
All Violence Begins with Disconnection: How to Help Connect People
I am sharing amazing posts I read from all the blogs I scan in my feedly RSS reader. I scan 300+ blogs on a regular
The Christmas Spirit is the Flame We Ignite in Our Own Heart
“If what it takes for you this year to be present in this sacred, thin place, to feel the breath and presence of a Holy
Holiday Seasons are Hard for Adult Children With Painful Holiday Memories
Everyone who is or has been a part of a 12 step program knows that the Thanksgiving/Christmas holiday season is stressful for those of us
Learning to Save Yourself While Helping Others in Addiction
“For almost every addict who is mired in this terrible disease, other — a mother or father, a child or spouse, an aunt or uncles
Why I Love Helping Others
Having grownup in a home controlled by alcoholism, I was able to see my addiction very early into the disease. Thanksgiving, 1976, I told my
Family Roles Defined: Mascot and Lost Child
My self-discovery test, the Changemaker Test, is found on another of my blogs. Learning Your Labels. In my test, I have added what I found about the
Family Roles Defined: Hero and Scapegoat
My self-discovery test, the Changemaker Test, is found on another of my blogs. Learning Your Labels. In my test, I have added what I found about the
About the Wonderful Gift of Denial
I believe denial keeps us safe until we are ready to hear painful truths about ourselves. I hate when I am around someone telling someone
Procrastination is My Favorite Form of Perfectionism
Perfectionism is one of my core issues. It seems that procrastination should be the opposite of perfectionism because I am so deliberately not doing what
