Having begun my healing in 1976, I have seen many families excited at the prospect of healing for their loved ones only to have to face the reality that the loved one has entered a new world. Often it is a world that other family members don’t enter. Addiction feels as if it is the addict’s problem. But addiction is a family and loved ones’ disease. We all learn how to dance to addiction’s tune. Addiction is in control of all those who love an addict.

Help for those who want to intervene in the addiction–

From “Staying Safe While Dealing with a Loved One’s Substance Use Disorder“:

As you think through ways to help your loved one change, it is important to also think through the safety issues that often come with substance use disorders. There is always some risk in using substances, and there are many variables that contribute both to your loved one’s safety and your own. We recommend that you spend some time thinking through the following issues and ask for professional help if you need it.

Crisis toolkit gives you real solutions and process for intervening. 

This site is a joint collaboration between Addiction. The Next Step and The Center for Motivation and Change (CMC).

CMC is such a big believer in the transformational power of family involvement that we wrote a book specifically for you: Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change. It is a resource for families, intended to be a roadmap for navigating in territory you may well have never been before, and is full of the latest information that science has given us about how the use of substances affects the brain/body, reward/memory systems, and motivation and learning. It also provides principles of the family approach called Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT), critical communication and behavior change skills for constructively moving forward. The CRAFT approach has been proven time and again in well-conducted research studies to positively affect the whole family system.

We also created The 20 Minute Guide, a workbook that distills motivational strategies and CRAFT concepts down into a quick and easy workbook format. You can go directly to the website and access all of the sessions for free, or you can purchase the workbook in a variety of formats here.

Additional CRAFT Resources:

Dr. Robert Meyers is the father of the CRAFT approach and he has created several ways you can find CRAFT support:

– WEBSITE: The website has a list of certified CRAFT providers.

– BOOK: Get Your Loved One Sober: Alternatives to Nagging, Pleading, and Threatening, by Dr Robert Meyers and Brenda Wolfe

– ONLINE: Recently, Bob teamed up with Cadence Online to launch Parent CRAFT, an online training for parents concerned about changing drug and alcohol behaviors in their children. The innovative online program takes the empirically-studied behavioral science of CRAFT and brings it to life in an interactive film-based course. We recommend that you go to to access these CRAFT strategies.


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