How do you build a life in recovery? Once you give up an addiction, nothing in your life is the same. There is an old saying in AA that you only have to change two things in recovery: quit drinking and change everything else about you.
The twelve steps for addiction recovery work. In my opinion, they are a requirement for building your life addiction free. The twelve steps of addiction recovery offer the best chance in changing the addiction path. But how do we rebuild our lives after giving up the addiction? What do we need to do in order to become fully alive?
In addition to these twelve steps, structure is needed to develop habits and guidance. No one else has the answers for your life except you. So we each have an individual path to create. It takes courage and experimentation to learn the techniques that will work best for you.
Although addiction has some common roots for everyone, we each have to wrestle our own demons. So recovery becomes as unique as we each are. The only being large enough to know what we each need is God. The most beautiful gift that we each receive in recovery is that every experience and trial that we have had is a tool to help others with his/her recovery.
The fear we experienced as children created frozen feelings in our adulthood. But in accepting ourselves, we need to remember that that fear protected us when we were small and had no clue how to respond in the world of adults who also were struggling with life plus addiction. So our fears are our protection that we no longer need. Letting go and letting God works much better for my life.
As the main addiction recovery program progresses, other addiction problems will surface. I believe that everyone needs to examine the codependent side of the addiction experience. During my recovery from 1976, I have seen hundreds of relationships between sponsor and addict. Many of these relationships could be enriched by delving into an understanding of the codependent dynamics in this very special relationship. I see no reason why the examining of these dynamics couldn’t be shared by the two.
Not surprisingly, many codependents end up in the helping professions—policemen, fire departments, social services, teachers, clergy and medical professions. For people seeking help from therapists, be careful not to accept a professional who has your answers. No one can know what is best for anyone else. Choose professionals that offer a free session in which you can explore the helper’s own recovery. A healer can only help you as far as he/she has healed.
Instead of writing more ebooks, I have worked for the past year to create weekly newsletters that include my understanding about addiction/mental health recovery. I love the ease of using newsletters for frequent referral to learn and practice new ideas.
Each weekly Emotional Sobriety newsletter has one recovery theme. It includes 8 photos, 8 quotations and 8 direct links (highlighted in red) to posts about the theme. It is designed to be an easy resource you return to throughout the week.
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Try the free sample: Emotional Sobriety Sample Newsletter–Childhood Trauma.