“It is the courage to be open and loving which is the manifestation of underlying strength and power. And it is only in embracing the possibility that you have a Higher Self that knows how to love, that knows truth within, that is truly powerful, that you can begin to face and dismantle the false beliefs of the protected self, the ego. You can’t begin to look at these and deal with them if you don’t believe there’s anything else. You can never move into the feeling of personal power until you recognize truly that there’s a peaceful place within you that is already there, that doesn’t have to be fixed.” Jordan and Margaret Paul
Having a home group in recovery gives us a place to feel safe and to grow. Other groups can be added to this group. Online addiction/mental health groups offer additional ways to learn and accept ourselves. The first journey for recovery is learning to trust. This can only be done in a group.
Using Facebook groups, we can also create our own grow groups. We also may choose to start a grow group that meets physically. Or we may have them all; online groups, grow groups, and peer groups.
Group therapy is the strongest way to grow. We are with people who care about us and are willing to share what they see in us. We don’t need licenses or degrees to help others. The licenses are needed if you are paid by insurance. But you can either offer your groups free or elect to charge the members out of pocket.
Groups are the recognized best method for people to gain information and acceptance from others. One of the main underpinings of AA is that all members are peers. Anyone has the opportunity to share and to be heard.
In peer groups, the group leader leads only by getting the group together. Then the leadership is shared by all the group members. By caring for others, the group members can learn as well as teach self-discovery. The group leader/leaders may choose to charge or ask for donations to pay for the meeting room and materials.
Healing begins when, in spite of all the negative self-talk going on inside a person, that person feels someone caring and loving them for no apparent reason. This unconditional love comes in spite of attempts to search for a motive.
Although there are common group techniques to be learned, anyone who has compassion for others can help them to better understand themselves. The information about themselves is very personal and should always be given from a positive point-of-view.
Denial isn’t about lying; it is about not telling the truth because the truth is an unknown. Addictions provide us with escapes from reality. Giving up an addiction means giving up the world the addict has created and learning about the world that is unfolding around each of us.
Holding on to an addiction is extremely time-consuming so in order to help others we have to help them to discover themselves: the hobbies, pastimes, desires that may have been given up long ago.
The self-discovery method helps a person to grow with dignity. In learning new areas of self-discovery, when the addict finds many other pastimes and talents, the addiction will become less and less needed. The mentor has to remember that the addict is in a circular pattern of responding to life and the circle of negative thinking must be interrupted.
By learning our personality traits, we can determine the positives about ourselves to enrich our self-image. The Changemaker Test is meant to be the starting point for self-discovery. Using this blog, anyone with compassion and interest in others can use these materials to begin discussion groups to help others.
In compiling this test, the answers, and explanations, I know that people with a desire to help others can use these tools to help any who want to continue with self-discovery.
This test and related materials are available free at Learning Your Labels.
Changemaker groups are not therapy groups. Changemaker groups are grow groups as the members have a desire for self-discovery. The groups may be a group who never formally meet but instead are joined together in a virtual group. They may choose to come together by some basic personality labels in common. They also may exchange email addresses, instant messaging addresses or meet in a chat room.
Through Changemaker Groups, we provide short-term specialized direction and solutions to help others to better understand themselves and ourselves. With this direction and self-knowledge others will learn to implement techniques designed to lead to greater self-mastery.