Using Your Triggers to Heal Yourself

From 5 Steps to Start Healing Your Emotional Triggers:

5. Commit to Shifting Your Beliefs.

From How to Spot and Heal Your Emotional Triggers:

How To Identify Them

Emotional triggers are not easy to identify, because our brain has a tendency to quickly rationalize our reactions, in order for them to make sense.

If you want to spot your emotional triggers, the first step is to to catch yourself reacting when your emotions are triggered, so that you can take responsibility for your reactions.

Pay attention to your bodily reactions. Can you notice any tensing of muscles, any tingling? Is your heart rate increasing? Is your breath accelerating?

Then, stop for a few minutes and ask yourself: why am I triggered? Why am I feeling this way? What emotion is this, and what has activated it?

“Identifying your emotional triggers is so vital because without bringing to consciousness what provokes extreme responses from you, you’ll be a puppet constantly manipulated by your emotions. Your friendships will be strained or ruined, your relationships will be turbulent or sabotaged, and your life, in general, will be much more painful.”

Mateo Sol, in How to Identify Your Emotional Triggers (Before it’s Too Late)

It all comes down to developing self-awareness.

The more aware you are, the more you commit to understanding your reactions, and the more you take your power back.


From Unexpected triggers:

Here are a few tips that I have found helpful:

  • always have an emergency script or emergency meds with you; something that you know chill you out.
  • Stay away from alcohol and other drugs. Yes, normally it will chill you out, but it can also flip you. And you lose the little self-control you have and do something stupid.
  • This one is very important: STAY AWAY from your phone and especially social media and email for at least an hour. As long as you have to.
  • If you don’t have a wedding every weekend like I do at the moment, take a day or two to chill out and unwind. Order your favourite food and beverage, and spend the day on a hobby in front of the TV or with a book. I normally prefer to be alone, but if you know you need someone to just hang with you, phone a friend or family.
  • SLEEP. Whatever you do, make sure you get your necessary hours of sleep; it give our brains time to process and keeps you from doing something stupid.
  • Write it out, on a blog or in a diary. There was a time that what went on in my head was SO dark that I avoided any writing in any form. Do what works for you.

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