Healing Our Inner Self Is Not Easy But It Is So Rewarding

From Healing is More Like a Rollercoaster Ride Than a Journey:

From Your inner child needs to be healed:

Is your inner child in need of healing? There’s a number of signs we can look for which indicate a deep suffering or need for resolution. In order to find peace and happiness, we have to embrace this pain for what it is and move forward in good faith and belief in our right to thrive.

Feeling a sense of loss

A deep sense of unexplainable loss or longing can often be traced back to an inner child who is lacking in love and compassion. Children need to be validated by those they look up to. It’s how they form their reference point in this world and perspective of self. When something missing in your life (from the inside out) we have to look to the past. Does this sense of emptiness stem from an inner child who never got the love they deserve?

Inability to let go

Do you struggle to let go of people and of things? Does the slightest departure feel like abandonment? That’s usually your inner child calling out in fear. Perhaps they were abandoned by someone they trusted, and it leads to a panic any time they see similar patterns in the future. It causes you to fear letting go of anyone or anything. You may even begin to hoard memories like valuables. Letting go is a part of healing, though, and a part of moving forward.

Failing to assert boundaries

What happens when you try to stand up for yourself or set boundaries in your relationships? Are you good at making your limits clear? Or do you find that you always get pushed around, or pushed in the direction of what the other person wants? Unsurprisingly, an inability to set mental, emotional, or sexual boundaries often stems from a childhood in which we were punished for doing those things; teaching us it’s not safe to say “no” to others.

Needing perfection

Perfectionism is a double-edged sword which leads to a lot of problems when not properly managed. More often than not, it also stems from childhood, where we learned that in order to be loved or accepted, we have to “be the best”. This compulsive desire to prove yourself to others is toxic. It comes from a need to prove superiority over others, which comes always from a place of deep-rooted insecurity.

Losing control emotionally

Do you find that you have a hard time regulating your emotions? Do you blow up or lash out regularly when things don’t go your way? Do you lose control and strike a painful blow before anyone else is allowed to hurt you? Emotional regulation is a skill learned in childhood, but when we fail to learn the skill, it leads to dysregulation in adulthood. This impacts our interpersonal relationships, and even the professional opportunities we attract.

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