Which Attachment Theory Determines Your Relationship Basis?

From “14 Signs You Have a Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style“:

The fearful-avoidant attachment style is one of four attachment styles that describe how a person feels and acts in their relationships based on how they learned to attach to their caregivers growing up. The other attachment styles are anxious/preoccupied attachment, avoidant/dismissive attachment, and secure attachment. Not sure which style fits you? I highly recommend this quiz from The Attachment Project.

So what is the fearful-avoidant attachment style? Sometimes called disorganized or just plain “fearful” attachment, this is an attachment style based on fear. Fear of everything: abandonment, intimacy, being too much, not being enough, everything presents a potential danger to you. Generally, people with this attachment style grew up with caregivers who were unable to appropriately and consistently comfort them when they were afraid or upset. These children learned that sometimes their caregiver was just as frightening or upsetting as whatever upset them in the first place. As a result, they craved closeness, but also feared it.

From “Do Avoidant Partners Really Care About Your Feelings?“:

Avoidantly attached people are afraid to show vulnerability and may push people away when things get too ‘real.’ It’s often a trauma response, and they’re doing this to keep themselves feeling safe.

From “How to Tell if Someone Has a Secure Attachment Style”:

From “This is How You Finally Fall in Love, Based on Your Attachment Style“:

Attachment style is one of the most common and well-studied indicators of romantic success. If you don’t know what yours is, take this quiz.

Whether it’s secure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachment, each group comes with its own pros and cons.

The good news is, there’s always a chance for love.

Here’s how each of these attachment styles finally falls in love: MORE.

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