“I used to spend so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that my life had no direction. Other people’s lives, problems, and wants set the course for my life. Once I realized it was okay for me to think about and identify what I wanted, remarkable things began to take place in my life.”
“I need to learn to recognize and identify these danger signs when I see them, and not brush them off as “eccentricities,” “lovable oddities,” or “a sign that he s crying out for help and the comforting of a codependent nurturer that only I, Princess Enabler, can provide. Bad boyfriends don’t disguise themselves; their girlfriends do it for them. ”
“A POCKET-SIZED GIRL
He keeps me in his pocket
for a rainy day;
he swears I’m not an object
as he yo-yo’s me away.
A friend is what we’ll call it,
but my friend, he does not know,
each time it rains I love him—
so to his pocket, I must go.
He thinks he’s being clever,
but I am not a fool;
his love ain’t worth a penny,
so to my heart I must be cruel.”