Blogs About Codependency Help Keep Boundaries Clear

“The meaning of the term codependency is in much dispute. It is not a word you would find in many dictionaries, nor is it a concept that is easy to define. The word has only been coined in recent history. Originally codependency was used to describe family members and spouses of substance dependent individuals. It was used interchangeably with the term enabling and referred to the maladaptive behaviors that resulted from a preoccupation with the addict’s life. The positive intent of enabling is to end the substance dependency by “helping” in some way. The end result of enabling is that family and friends “help” in making it possible for the dependency to continue.”

“Today the term codependency is used more generally to apply to just about anyone who has a pattern of dysfunctional relationships involving focusing on the needs and behaviors of others more than one’s own. Codependent individuals become so preoccupied and focused on the needs of others that they neglect their own needs.  Two key areas in a person’s life reflect codependence: the relationship with the self and relationships with others.”

“Codependency has been described as an addiction, an illness, a disease, learned behaviors, a phenomenon, a psychosocial condition, a personality trait, a psychological construct, and a personality disorder. Many professionals believe that every addiction has its roots in codependency.  Some authors argue that codependency is the most common of all addictions. This is because codependents have as much difficulty accepting their powerlessness over people and events as addicts have over accepting their powerlessness over their drug of choice.”

Patrick B. McGinnis

1.’Will You Be Mad at Me

2. “On Codependency and Childhood Trauma

3. “Don’t Fix Others

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