PTSD can be Healed by Learning How to Live in the Moment

“I am continuously struck by how frequently the various thought processes of the inner critic trigger overwhelming emotional flashbacks. This is because the PTSD-derived inner critic weds shame and self-hate about imperfection to fear of abandonment, and mercilessly drive the psyche with the entwined serpents of perfectionism and endangerment. Recovering individuals must learn to recognize, confront and disidentify from the many inner critic processes that tumble them back in emotional time to the awful feelings of overwhelming fear, self-hate, hopelessness and self-disgust that were part and parcel of their original childhood abandonment.”     Pete Walker

How to Heal PTSD

“WE WERE CREATED TO HEAL. When you cut yourself, your body immediately goes into action to heal the wound. Eventually, unless the wound is very severe or your immune system has been compromised, your injury will be gone, leaving little or no evidence that the cut ever happened. Isn’t that amazing?

I believe our minds were also made to heal. Although I am not completely healed of PTSD, I am a thousand times better than when I was at my worst. (See Feeling Overwhelmed: It’s a PTSD Thing for an example of the ways in which I still struggle.)”

Noticed a trend on my blog

“Sorrow, sadness, grieving, and other unhappy terms apply.  I like this grief path that depression is a look alike but not one of the emotions.  Depression stops the other processes.  Depression halts me feeling the grieving and sorrow.  Depression blocks my feeling what I need to feel to let go of the pain.  I didn’t see that coming when I sat down to write this post.  But there it is.  Depression halts the healing process by blocking and depressing the emotions that need to be felt to heal.  I learned that sitting with my sorrow is not depression.  Shoving my sorrow in a hole and soldiering on as if nothing happened when it did – that is depression and keeps that sorrow stuck with me.  Wow. I’m going to need to think about this one for a while.”


“I stopped being able to sell books easily when I lost the fire in my belly about books. I lost that because they were no longer the only place I didn’t hurt, they were pleasant diversions, but not necessary for sanity. I lost my passion, the why I loved books so much, and my ability to sell them easily at the simultaneously.”

“In the same way, I lost my entertainment “muscle.” I used to be a superior hostess and was known for it. But I was continually on stage — felt like I was a performing seal. When I stopped being hypervigilant and immersed in the life PTSD had left me, I stopped the dog-and-pony show. Somehow I just can’t get it in my brain again that I need to be able to be entertaining: tell stories or do schtick occasionally.”

Flashback Halting Guide: 10 Tips to Halt Flashbacks for Yourself or a Loved One

“9) Breathe. This helps calm feelings of panic that can happen during a flashback. When panicked, muscles may tense and breathing becomes shallow and short — which can heighten panic. Take slow deep breaths in and out. Getting the air you need is soothing, and deep breathing interrupts the automatic alarm signals from your body.”


  1. Your blog is a masterpiece, very informative
    Not many ptsd blogs have the depth and call to action

    The illustration is informative

    I disagree with the bottom sentence emdr or cbt are the only ways out. Many more ways out and therapies have exploded meditation/mindfulness hybrids of acceptance and commitment therapy and dialectic behavioral therapy plus mindfulness based therapy and many more.

    For me meditation focus on the breath built by daily repetitive practice can integrate trauma when it is triggered the best and easiest

    We all need daily action, the mind works best or will take action when exposed to simple,concrete, immediate ideas

    Again outstanding blog


    • Thank you, Marty, for your kind words. I believe my wound was codependency and that PTSD was a result of that wound. I haven’t used any specific therapies in my healing other than transactional analysis in the 1980s and ACT(acceptance and commitment therapy) in the 2000s. I don’t like cbt as I find it puts all the healing work on the client. I like ACT because it gets someone into action and out of the overthinking mode. I completely agree with the “just breathe” as being the single best healing response. Always works for me. My first thoughts in the morning are to become the observer of my thoughts. The ego so loves to run the show.

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      • I found ACT also as a last resort

        I just expanded on the meditation practice

        My childhood abuse built incredible willpower and the ability to take action in the middle of chaos

        So being retired my new job was healing.

        I meditated five hours a day, went to a Zen center, applied my practice and devoured therapists books, meditation books and neuroscience books


      • All time well spent. I started a Facebook page Jan. 17, 2011 during the time of my darkest space while in addiction recovery. I posted 4-5 times daily. I have posted daily since then and now have 20,000 followers. They saved me. I viewed it in retirement as my job. It is the first thing I do daily.


      • Sharing our journey in an authentic way, a way of hope and a better life helps heal us more

        To teach or share our experiences gives us a better understanding of our own path and meditation helps us drop the ego and see the big picture.

        I have went from complex ptsd comorbid with depression and six months of agoraphobia, to running a mindfulness group in real life

        When we learn to stay present when all hell brakes loose we see trauma is a bluff, no real consequences can be found after our neurotransmitters cortisol and adrenaline dilute back to normal.

        We fear our own defense mechanism, in which no fear sissy’s.

        Meditation has become a way of living, it thought me the battle is internal


      • I find another soul with the passion for life.

        We had to give so much to heal

        Accepting or being vulnerable to what we fear takes much more than the masses are willing to give


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