“Play us a tune on an unbroken spinet, and let the bells ring, let the bells ring! Play music now: play us a tune on an unbroken spinet. Do not make echoes of forgotten time, do not strike music from old broken keys, do not make ghosts with faded tinklings on the yellowed board; but play us a tune on an unbroken spinet, play lively music when the instrument was new, let us see Mozart playing in the parlor, and let us hear the sound of the ladies’ voices. But more than that; waken the turmoil of forgotten streets, let us hear their sounds again unmuted, and unchanged by time, throw the light of Wednesday morning on the Third Crusade, and let us see Athens on an average day.”
— Thomas Wolfe, Of Time and the River
Dr. Tian Dayton writing for The Huffington Post explores the “biology of codependency“. Her study of the neurological findings about codependency found that codependency is fear-based. She further believes that the stress of living in a home where the children learned to be more vigilant to the adults’ moods rather than their own taught the children to access mood from outside them. What happens to the child’s moods? The child loses touch with what he/she is feeling.
Coming alive links:
1. From Jonathan Fields: “Give me a break: Are you busy for a reason?”
Busyness that’s not driven by clarity and purpose is almost always a bad thing. And, it’s near impossible to find clarity and purpose without space. At least, for me.
So, question is, what am I going to do about it?
Here’s what. I’ll be stepping back a bit and asking whether the millions of things that are keeping me busy these days are the things that are moving me toward my continuing quest to come alive…or just keeping me from re-examining “what” will make me come alive as I move into what is very much a new phase of both my career and my life (don’t worry, not bailing on the blog!).
Read more here.
2. From Diamonds in the Sky With Lucy:” Formation“–“to be nobody but myself— in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make me somebody else— means to fight the hardest battle any human can fight, and never stop fighting.” e.e. cummings
When I allow myself to slow down, I realize that it is God I seek. The ultimate wholeness and completeness of the universe. When I experience God, I am home. I see the beauty of the stillness. I hear the still small voice – the words that seemingly come out of nowhere. The meaning that has no words – only experience. I know that I am here for a purpose even though I may not quite know what it is.
So I invite you to ponder along with me. How are you informed? Do you see patterns in your life that warrant exploration? Who or what do you seek in your daily life? In your readings? Your work or play? Do you choose to fight the battle to be yourself? Or do you allow others to make you into someone else?
Read more here.
3. From Zen to Fitness: “Life Lessons from a 5 Year Old“–Children need to play. It’s how they learn, interact with each other, and explore the world. Playtime is built into a child’s day so they can use their imagination, move their bodies, and meet new friends without judgement or hatred. Adults, on the other hand, hardly ever play. There are deadlines to meet, bills to pay, and “things” to take care of which all comes with the job of being a grownup. However, this doesn’t mean we have to neglect our inner child! Many adults suffer from anxiety, stress, and depression because they don’t allow themselves to play, be creative, and they take life very seriously. It’s important for our spirit to enjoy a hobby that fosters our creativity, to spend time outside in nature, and to meet new friends. Oh, and a genuine smile helps also!
Read more here.