Letting go-

“No man has earned the right to intellectual ambition until he has learned to lay his course by a star which he has never seen,–to dig by the divining rod for springs which he may never reach…Only when you have worked alone,—when you have felt around you a black gulf of solitude more isolating than that which surrounds the dying man, and in hope and in despair have trusted to your own unshaken will,—then only will you have achieved. Thus only you gain the secret isolated joy of the thinker.”
Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.

Let go-

“The most important words in midlife are—Let Go. Let it happen to you. Let it happen to your partner. Let the feelings. Let the changes…You are moving out of roles and into the self…It would be surprising if we didn’t experience some pain as we leave the familiarity of one adult stage for the uncertainty of the next. But the willingness to move through each passage is equivalent to the willingness to live abundantly. If we don’t change; we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we are not really living.” Gail Sheehy

Be your observer self-

“Begin to observe your life more and try to awaken the observer in you, the high self. Thinkers from Plato to Freud have talked about the three selves we have within us.” “I call them the high self, the conscious self, and the basic self. The conscious self is the personality; the basic self is the child. When the conscious self decides to go on a diet, the basic self eats chocolate cake.” “The high self is the god within us, the part that is eternal and divine. It is always there but we need to activate it. Listen to the slow, still voice we call intuition.”   Arianna Huffington

Prepare yourself-

“If I were asked to give what I consider the single most useful bit of advice for all humanity, it would be this: Expect trouble as aninevitable part of life, and when it comes, hold your head high, look it squarely in the eye and say, “I will be bigger that you.” You canno tdefeat me.. Then repeat to yourself the most comforting of all words,“This too shall pass.” Maintaining self-respect in the face of a devastating experience is of prime importance.” Ann Landers

Our society-

“Our society considers hard work, intense recreation, vigorous exercise, rushing through the day, excessive eating, frequent anger,occasional deep depression, and sex without love as “normal”, and we have become addicted to the brain chemicals that accompany these so-called normal behaviors.” Paul Pearsall

Surrender-

“Surrender means, by definition, giving up attachment to results. When we have an attachment to results, we tend to have a hard time giving up control.” Marianne Williamson

Surrender-

Pain is not created by circumstance. It arises out of a desire to constantly change the circumstances of your experience. When you desire to constantly change your experience, you are assuming that your present moment reality isn’t already a perfectly-orchestrated scenario, through which your highest evolution is meant to blossom. While you will certainly come to certain points in time, where your willingness to change and make different choices guides you into new paradigms of expansion, it is your willingness to surrender any desire for constant change that allows the despair of any painful circumstance to transform on its own. This is the heart of surrender. ~ Matt Kahn