Emotional health is directly connected to our physical health. Choosing healthy ways (exercise, meditation, centering, and deep breathing) to deal with stress go far toward our overall health. The mind-body connection is the way your body responds to how you think, feel and act.
Some of the physical signs that your body and mind may be out of connection are chest pain, headaches, back pain, extreme tiredness, high blood pressure, upset stomach, weight loss or gain, insomnia, etc. Many of these ailments may be as well treated by learning how to improve your emotions. Learn how to sort out the following emotions: anxiety, stress and sadness.
Too many of us have learned as children to stuff our feelings. The only emotional growth comes after we accept our feelings. Feelings aren’t good or bad or wrong or right. They are simply how we feel. Some people are helped by writing in a journal a short description of how they feel. After you accept your feelings, you can study healthy ways to deal with them.
Unfortunately, many people now believe that they have to continually “vent” all their feelings. In my opinion, vending feelings about the same situation does little good. If, once your feelings are known about a situation to all involved in the situation and everything stays the same, then learn new coping skills such as reframing to change the way you feel.
Remember, you can only change yourself-not others. If you still feel unable or unwilling to change-find out what your unhappiness is giving you. Holding on to old hurts only hurts us.
From Stacey Curnow: “How to Find the Lesson in the Life Challenge”:
So if you don’t like what’s happening in your life, then the cause is something within you, not in external circumstances. In other words, you’re the problem.
But that’s no reason to despair! By creating such undesirable “circumstances,” the Universe is actually doing you a favor. It’s giving you an opportunity to take full responsibility for your external reality.
What’s more, we can derive meaning from any experience — no matter how “bad” it is or how much pain it involves-if we’re willing to look for the hidden meaning, or the gifts it’s offering us.
You don’t even have to figure out the cause of the challenging emotion or “fix” it. Just allow yourself to feel it, and see what comes up. The next time you feel a negative emotion, try the following approach:
· Place your palms gently over your eyes, carefully sealing out stray light. Allow your breathing to become steady and observe your thoughts and feelings.
· Try not to judge or react to your thoughts and feelings; just be present with them, and let yourself experience them, even if it hurts.
· At this point, you can also acknowledge and offer appreciation for the challenge that is playing a part in your growth and positive transformation.
· Now ask yourself, “What is this here to teach me? What is the possible gift in this situation?
Don’t have time to do the full exercise? Then just ask yourself that last question. In fact, you might want to memorize the question and imagine yourself asking it the next time you’re facing a challenge.
Finally, one gift you can always find in a negative experience is that it sharpens the contrast between what you do want and what you don’t want, giving you an opportunity to focus more powerfully on your desires. (Which is another reason why it’s important to carve out time to sit with your negative emotions.)
It sometimes also helps to acknowledge that any gifts that may arise from adversity might not be apparent to you for some time. After all, such gifts are almost always more obvious in hindsight. So at the very least, you can derive comfort from knowing that you can expect-very soon-to see the bright side, even if you can’t yet.