I spent the first four days of May at a men’s event put on by Boot Camp Northwest. The long weekend is patterned after the Wild at Heart Boot Camps done by Ransomed Heart Ministries. It was an awesome time of leaning and growth for me. It also gave me an interesting look at men and how they think. I had a chance to talk with many men during our free time. Much of what I heard will show up in here over the next weeks.
One statement made by a speaker grabbed me – ”Bored men seeking adventure pick fights and get in trouble.” This is so true!
I have written about the need for men to take risks. Adventure is much the same, but the risks need not be dangerous. Challenging ourselves is risky, and it feels good. Even when we fall short of the challenge, trying feels good.
During one quiet time, I climbed part way up a hill to be alone. I am out of shape, and a short climb left me panting. The next day during extended free time, I decided to challenge myself. I chose a hill I was sure I could do, and then started up the somewhat larger hill next to it. It was only a two mile hike, but it was a climb of 600 feet on rather steep, loose shale hills. I had to stop far more often than I want to admit, but I made it to the top. I felt so alive when I “conquered” that hill. I also felt like God was there beside me as I looked around. (The image is a picture I shot near the top.) On the way down, I passed a hole in the hillside which was likely a cougar den. I picked up a few rocks and walked away as quietly as possible. I was not in real danger, but it was a rush to be there.
Your husband needs adventure (same for your son(s)). He needs to challenge himself. God put these needs in him, and when the needs are not met one of several things happens:
- Something destructive comes out somewhere.
- Suppressing his natural desires results in suppressing other parts of himself.
- Denying his inner self leads to depression.
- He “medicates” with something sinful or harmful.
God made him for adventure, and he will never be the man God intended him to be without adventure. A wise wife encourages her man to have a good amount of sane adventure.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and I need adventure to feel right about myself.