My Changemaker Labels
A. NLP: Auditory
Words: sound, tell, speak, say, talk, hear, loud, tone
Phrases: Rings a bell for me. Loud and clear. On the same wave length. Sounds good. Do you hear that?
May perceive things quicker over the telephone—listens carefully to how something sounds in effort to recall an inner record of similar delivery.
Speech Pattern: Speaks clearly and distinctly—likes to sound good.
Right-handed people: for remembered sounds, the eyes move across to the left.
For sounds we are trying to imagine, the eyes move to the right.
Left-handed people: for remembered sounds, the eyes move to the right.
For sounds we are trying to imagine, the eyes move to the left.
B. Birth Order-First Born
Description of first born: Tend to be studious, serious, and well-organized. They also tend to have his profile professions.
Strengths of being first-born: Conscientious—reliable—accepts responsibility easily—organizer—tends to become oriented to needs or feelings of other people around them
Weaknesses of being first-born: Stubborn—perfectionistic-driven—moody—skeptical—tense—tends to look for flaws—critical
To overcome limitations, use the following suggestions to make affirmations: To make affirmations powerful: state them in the present tense only, be positive, be specific, begin with “I”, state the affirmation as if it were already accomplished to avoid wishful thinking, and keep them free from condemnation or criticism.
For example, say “I am free of fear.” Not ”I’d like to be free of fear.” If you have a belief in God or a Higher Power, use that belief in your affirmations.
Avoid focusing on one narrow solution. Instead open yourself up to the solution for the greatest good of all concerned.
C. Family Roles:
In our family of origin, we each chose roles as our way to belong in the family. Possibly we were indirectly “assigned” these roles. However, we settled on two of the roles. One is our “doing” role (how we appear to others) and the other is our “being” role (the role we choose to solve our emotional problems through). The roles are family hero, scapegoat, lost child, and mascot.
Doing role-Family Hero
Positive characteristics of the family hero:
Responsible—dependable—hard worker—achiever—successful—focused—generous in praising others—leader—survivor—loyal—powerful–organized
Negative characteristics of family hero:
Inflexible—fears intimacy—driven—unable to play—has unreasonable expectations—fears failure—experiences guilt easily—has trouble getting personal needs met
Inner feelings of family hero:
Works hard for approval—super responsible—successful—appears to be all-together—believes themselves to be special
Major hidden feelings of family hero:
Inadequacy because nothing is ever good enough
Gift to the family:
Pride from the achievements of the family hero
To outgrow need for family hero role, he/she needs to learn:
They are responsible for getting their own needs met and are not responsible for everyone around them. They need to learn to play and not take themselves and others so seriously. They need to give up compulsion to be perfect and to give up the need to be boss in order to win approval from authority figures.
Techniques others may use to help the family hero to give up using this role exclusively:
Allow the family hero to know it is all right to make mistakes.
Help the family hero to feel validated by his-her own person rather than by achievements.
Give the family hero attention and approval at times other than when he/she is achieving.
Being Role: Scapegoat:
Positive characteristics of the scapegoat:
Has many friends—good group leader and/or counselor—courage to reveal reality—sensitive to others’ feelings—handles stress well—commands attention
Negative characteristics of scapegoat:
Hostile—defiant—angry—rule-breaker—may be in trouble—may have legal trouble—irresponsible—manipulative
Inner feelings of scapegoat:
Major hidden feelings of scapegoat:Rejection so rejects others first
Gift to the family:
Rebels to take focus away from other family members—provides distraction
To outgrow need scapegoat role, he/she needs to learn:
To learn conflict resolution rather than dealing with the difficulty by rebelling
To be assertive and tell others of his/her true feelings
To learn to identify the hurt under the anger and to recognize when they use anger to cover hurt
Techniques others may use to help scapegoat to give up using this role exclusively:
Don’t get caught up in the scapegoat’s cover of “anger” and allow the scapegoat to avoid feeling their hurt
To learn to negotiate rather then rebel
To help scapegoat to understand he/she has control over feelings of anger
D: How We Use Our Energy
The two main ways I use energy are: logic and creative
Description of logic energy:
Have a plan of action
Stressors of logic energy:
Lack of direction in meetings
Lack of focus
Lack of organization
Too much logic energy; may not listen to others enough
The opposite energy that will need to be developed is:
To develop relationship energy, practice doing these:
1. Learn active learning from PET books by Thomas Gordon
2. Spend time getting in touch with your inner child for more sensitivity
3. Spend time alone with another person reflecting back what the other person is saying(reflexive learning)
Description of creative energy:
Detects possibilities for problem-solving easily
Stressors of creative energy:
1. Negative people
2. Meetings that produce no results
4. Lack of courage in making decisions
Too much creative energy; may be too impractical
The opposite energy that will need to be developed is:
To develop grounding energy, practice doing these:
1. On regular basis, take walks concentrating on one of the five senses, such as listening, and then the next day, focus on another sense, such as smelling.
2. Do one thing at a time
3. Get out of your head
4. Celebrate your accomplishments frequently
5. Use autosuggestions; such as, I feel great!
6. Explore the world
7. Develop sensory skills
Although the Changemaker Test is not a substitute for the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® instrument, it will give an idea of what your personality preferences may be. It is recommended that you take the MBTI® assessment amd receive feedback in order to properly determine your type preferences.
Based on your answers of 19-21-22-24;your personality is INTJ.
The best website for information on the MBTI is www.capt.org. The following description for this type is posted on the CAPT site and is used by permission. It was written by Charles Martin, Ph.D.
“For INTJs the dominant force in their lives is their attention to the inner world of possibilities, symbols, abstractions, images, and thoughts. Insight in conjunction with logical analysis is the essence of their approach to the world; they think systemically. Ideas are the substance of life for INTJs and they have a driving need to understand, to know, and to demonstrate competence in their areas of interest. INTJs inherently trust their insights, and with their task-orientation will work intensely to make their visions into realities.”
If you would like to take the MBTI® instrument online, go to the CAPT site and click on “Take the MBTI Assessment.” The process and fees are explained there. The direct link is http://www.capt.org/take-mbti-assessment/mbti.htm.
Type Five: The Observerbelieves you must protect yourself from a world that demands too much and gives too little to assure life. Consequently, Observers seek self-sufficiency and are non-demanding, analytic/thoughtful and unobtrusive, but also can be withholding, detached and overly private.
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