I. Want to Lose Weight? Go on a Word Diet! by Karen Salmansohn:
Are you happy with your weight right now? If not, I recommend using this new vocabulary menu served up below.
1. I banned the word “diet“ completely and renamed my actions as “do-it.” I wanted to ingrain into my brain that I was really going to do it – lose this weight!
2. I “appreci-eat” my food. This word is all about slowing down how you eat, which allows you to taste and appreciate food more, which leads you to eating less.
3. I now label foods as “forward” and “backward.”Every food I choose to eat helps me become more conscious of how it either moves me forward to my fab weight or backward to my flab weight.
4. I’ve relabeled my eating habits as “the old me” and “the new me.” All your habits in life come from your identity. If you think, “I always overeat late at night,” guess what? You do! If you think, “The old me used to overeat late at night, but the new me can resist pigging out – even on chocolate,” guess what? The new you will be very much going forward to a fab weight, instead of backward to your flab weight.
5. I swapped mere tiny “willpower“ for “wall-power!”Nothing is able to break through my wall of commitment!
6. I began talking more about ways to “increase my appetite for life.” After all, if you want to be a slim, healthy person, it’s essential you swap the pleasure of food with life’s multitudinous other delights. If you want to lose weight, you must make sure your appetite for life is far bigger than your appetite for merefood. How do you increase your appetite for life? Stop allowing yourself to focus on depressing life circumstances — including focusing on being depressed about your weight. All this negative focus will only lead you to feeling bummed and wanting to pig out. Instead, consciously focus on happy life circumstances you enjoy doing, and create more of them! Swap chips and salsa for salsa classes! Stop eating cake, and start painting fruit baskets! Recognize how the joy of taking photos lasts longer than the joy of ice cream!
7. I recognize when I’m “do-it-ing” to become my slimmest, I’m not merely looking to create “a better number on my scale.” I’m looking to permanently adjust my “masochistic equilibrium level.” What’s this and how does it work? Well, it’s as if each of us grew up feeling comfy with a certain level of happiness. When this happiness concentration shifts, even if it’s upward to feeling incredible big happiness, then a lot of us feel twitchy and overeat, thereby raising our weight upward so as to lower our self-love, so as to lower our happiness, which reverts us to our familiar “masochistic equilibrium level” leftover from childhood. Basically, if you want to get and stay at your slimmest weight, you must be ready to throw out these old childhood emotional leftovers. When you’re truly ready to be happy in life, then you’re truly ready to be happy about your weight.
II. “What are You Waiting For” by Carolyn Rubinstein:
The action itself is not what we fear – it is our thoughts that are restraining. Break free from those thoughts and move towards action. Soon enough, small steps will become the equivalent of a giant leap toward the creative, the passionate, the driven, and the anew. Use these four steps to aid yourself in the process of revitalization.
1. Ask yourself tough questions. What is the cost of inaction? Create a “why not?” list and ask yourself if the benefits outweigh these negative thoughts. Think about the consequences of the status quo internally and externally.
2. Accept rational accountability. Decide to change your inaction and make yourself accountable for both your actions and inaction. I grew up learning that there are actions of commission and acts of omission. We are equally responsible for what we do and don’t do.
3. Follow your own advice.If a friend were in the same scenario, what advice would you give him or her? Taking a step back from the problem or scenario might help you gain objectivity. Sometimes being too entrenched can cloud our judgment.
4. Always listen to your intuition.Do a gut check and gauge what the heart and mind can’t. Remember that this requires little thinking… What’s your first reaction? How do you viscerally respond to what’s going on? If you have strong feelings, listen to them.
The bold action that you take doesn’t have to be anything grandiose; it can merely be a step away from ambivalence and inactivity. We may not always get our decisions “right,” but there is something both beautiful and powerful about taking action. What are you waiting for?
Are you stuck in a comfort zone? Or have you successfully overcome the strong magnetic pull of this place of inaction? Share your thoughts, questions, or sage advice below. (If you don’t typically leave comments, begin taking bold action by starting today!)
III. Jill Chivers writing for Illuminated Mind. Net posted “Three Ways to Deal With Difficult Emotions“:
The following excerpt is taken from her third way–transforming the emotions:
“a) Labelling — putting a label on the emotion. This works best when you are succinct — if you talk too much about or enter into a dialogue with your emotions, it tends to increase the level of painful emotions you experience. So short is better – sit with the emotion for a moment, give it a label, let it go. I was a conference call the other day and found myself getting agitated by what someone was saying. Instead of pushing that emotion down or trying to ignore it, I gave it a few seconds of attention, asking myself what is this emotion? When I found it – annoyed – I did a quick label “I’m feeling annoyed” then let it go – so much easier to do after I’d quickly labelled it. The other thing that works well with labelling is using a metaphor – “this emotion is like….” I’ve used this approach in corporate workshops for years and I can tell you it works. We did an exercise where we used metaphor cards to help identify emotions. This emotion is like a herd of zebras – there’s dark and light here. Or this emotion is like a garden path – it’s taking me somewhere. It doesn’t have to make logical sense (metaphors often don’t); your unconscious knows how it folds together. This is not a process you need to share – it is largely an internal process.”
“(b) Reframing — putting a different interpretation onto the same set of circumstances (or “facts”). This is an effective “braking” mechanism – it puts the kybosh on your strong emotional pain in smart order. It’s a version of Shakespeare’s tenet that “there is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so”. How you sort and ‘file’ the event makes all the difference in the world to how you feel about it and how it affects you. You can label it horrible, bad, terrible….. Or you can print out a different label like “useful” or “I learned something important” or “the upside to this was…”. Even if you’re not sure if this possible or that there’ll be a single answer to those questions, try it. You’ll be amazed at how your unconscious will deliver an answer to you, if you only ask, be still, don’t judge and listen.”
“WARNING: Reframing painful events takes effort! Rock calls it “metabolically expensive”. That means you have to effectively delete the original scene and re-direct/script it into a better-serving scene. This is akin to a director re-shooting, re-editing (maybe even re-casting) and re-shaping the scene in a movie. Reframing takes time and energy but it is worth it because it is so powerful. The good news? The more you practice, the better you get at it and the easier it becomes. And the quicker you muscle in those poorly filed memories, the easier it is to reframe them in a way that helps you more effectively deal with that crazy thing called life.”