Resurrecting Our Childhood

In Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, Harville Hendrix writes:

“When you hear the words “psychological and emotional damage of childhood”, you may immediately think about serious childhood traumas such as sexual or physical abuse or the suffering that comes from having parents who divorced or died or were alcoholics. And for many people this is the tragic reality of childhood. However, even if you were fortunate enough to grow up in a safe, nurturing environment, you still bear invisible scars from childhood,because from the very moment you were born you were a complex, dependent creature with a never-ending cycle of needs. Freud correctly labeled us “insatiable beings”. And no parents, no matter how devoted, are able to respond perfectly to all these changing needs.”

Being famous is a poor substitute for an abusive childhood–Reprinted from Rolling Stone’s archives about Michael Jackson (courtesy of Feminist Philosophers):

“From a young age Jackson was physically and mentally abused by his father, enduring incessant rehearsals, whippings and name-calling. Jackson’s abuse as a child affected him throughout his grown life. In one altercation — later recalled by Marlon Jackson — Joseph held Michael upside down by one leg and “pummeled him over and over again with his hand, hitting him on his back and buttocks”. Joseph would often trip up, or push the male children into walls. One night while Jackson was asleep, Joseph climbed into his room through the bedroom window. Wearing a fright mask, he entered the room screaming and shouting. Joseph said he wanted to teach his children not to leave the window open when they went to sleep. For years afterward, Jackson suffered nightmares about being kidnapped from his bedroom.”

“Jackson first spoke openly about his childhood abuse in a 1993 interview with Oprah Winfrey. He said that during his childhood he often cried from loneliness and would sometimes get sick or start to regurgitate upon seeing his father. In Jackson’s other high profile interview, Living with Michael Jackson (2003), the singer covered his face with his hand and began crying when talking about his childhood abuse. Jackson recalled that Joseph sat in a chair with a belt in his hand as he and his siblings rehearsed and that “if you didn’t do it the right way, he would tear you up, really get you.”

Childhood by Mella DP, a 29 year old female engineer from Chicago, includes these sections:

1.  What were afraid of as a child?

2.  What were your favorite books as a child? Do you ever reread any of them? If so, how do they hold up? Were there ever any that gave you nightmares, but you had to finish them anyway?

3.  As a child, how did you feel about other children? Were your friends mostly your age, mostly older, or mostly non-existent?

4.  What was your favorite toy? Do you wish that you still had it? Do you still have it or have you bought another off Ebay?

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