The 12 Steps for Adult Children

The 12 Steps for Adult Children

Friends in Recovery

ISBN 0-941405-12-5

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From the introduction:

The 12 Steps for Adult Children is a personal guide to understanding the spiritual power of the Twelve Steps. This material is primarily for adults whose childhoods were negatively affected by a less-than-nurturing environment. This environment often resulted when adults responsible for care were influenced by substance abuse, emotional problems, or compulsive behaviors. The Twelve Steps offer a way to grow beyond the harmful effects of a troubled home environment.”

“When used as intended, the steps are a profoundly powerful process for allowing God to heal damaged emotions. The 12 Steps for Adult Children is a spiritual tool that helps us regain balance and order, and leads us to improved health and increased happiness through a renewed relationship with our Higher Power.”

Starting the journey:

“This book provides a practical way to use the Twelve Steps as a recovery tool, and to fully integrate the steps as an ongoing part of our recovery journey. The book helps us to identify and deal with issues that are interfering with our lives. If we approach this work seriously, we will experience recovery that nurtures physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.”

Working with a recovery partner:

“A recovery partner is similar ro a mentor or sponsor. This person can be a role model for learning how to enjoy a better quality of life through the love of a Higher Power and the wisdom of the program.”

Benefits of a recovery partner:

“Many benefits result from working with a recovery partner. Some of them are:

  • Partners provide a non-threatening system of mutual accountability. For example, a partner can agree to call the other for support and prayer in abstaining from a harmful habit.
  • Partners focus on each other’s specific area of need each time they meet. Openly sharing thoughts and feelings helps to clarify needs in problem areas. This contribules to one’s freedom from the past. The focus is to live honestly in the present with realistic expectations.
  • Partners encourage one another to progress from a state of physical, emotional, and spiritual sickness to wholeness of life. It is normal to feel discomfort when unhealthy familiar behaviors are being transformed. Healthy behavior is a result of doing our Higher Power’s will.
  • Partners aid one another by being sensitive to personal and relationship needs. When partners openly share their faults with one another, honesty, trust, and healing occur. It is not appropriate to focus on a particular behavior and lose the value of the moment or the point of what is shared.”