Category Archives: Reparenting
Reparent Your Inner Child A-Z Link Directory
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Accepting Our Shadow Self is Basis of Self-Acceptance
ACOA, Codependency and My Inner Child
Being a Caring Parent to Your Inner Child
Becoming Aware of Choosing Emotional Help
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A Compilation of Core Concepts (About Transactional Analysis) by Claude Steiner
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Diagram showing the interactions of the parent, child and adult in TA
Do You Need Help Changing Yourself?
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Expect Trouble and Hold Your Head Up High
Explanation of the Child in Transactional Analysis
Explanation of the Parent in Transactional Analysis
Explanation of the Adult in Transactional Analysis
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Helping Others to Learn Reparenting
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Key Ideas in Transactional Analysis from the International Transactional Analysis Association
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Learn to Listen and Guide Your Inner Voices
Learn to Listen to Your Inner Self with Transactional Analysis
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More About Transactional Analysis
More Transactional Analysis Books
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National Child Protection Training Center
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Our Inner Child is Our Eternal Child
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Your Childhood Pain was a Gift
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Stress Proof Your Life A-Z Link Directory
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TA Tudor (Transactional Analysis) includes a study guide for the TA 101 course and also has 400+ handouts
Transactional Analysis Student the study and training aids for trainee psychotherapists and counselors
Transactions (TA)
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What is Reparenting and How Do We Use It?
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Books About Reparenting
Mommy, I'm Walking by Dave Hogg
(1) It’s Never Too Late to Be Happy: Reparenting Yourself for Happiness by Muriel James
Product notes–
“In It’s Never Too Late to Be Happy: Reparenting Yourself for Happiness, Muriel James, coauthor of the 4-million-copy best-seller Born to Win, presents a clear, layman-friendly self-reparenting program through which the reader can actually create a new internal parent–one which is fully functional, supporting, encouraging, and loving–to replace the old parent figure, whose negative psychological messages consistently thwart one’s hopes for happiness.”
“In the field of psychology, self-reparenting is recognized as a highly effective strategy for pursuing happiness. Thousands of people worldwide have used it successfully to discover what went wrong in childhood and throughout their lives that restricted their freedom to succeed and be happy to move from discontentment to happiness–reparenting themselves for a fuller, happier life.”
“It’s Never Too Late to Be Happy presents coherent, straightforward insights into how personality is developed during a person’s early years, how parents use and misuse the parenting skills that influence personality, how children react to negative or inconsistent messages, and many other issues that work together to prohibit both satisfaction and happiness in later life. Combined with chapter by chapter self-analysis exercises, these insights will lead any reader through the reparenting process which will invariably lead to greatly increased happiness–at any age.”
(2) Self Parenting: The Complete Guide to Your Inner Conversations by John Pollard
Product notes:
“Self Parenting: The Complete Guide to Your Inner Conversations is the classic and original how-to book defining the concept of “self-parenting.” Many of us grew up within a parental environment that did not support our childhood needs for love, support, and nurturing.”
“As adults, we mentally continue the same patterns as an “Inner Parent” that left us feeling alone and abandoned as a child. By beginning the daily practice of positive Self-Parenting, the negative outer parenting patterns taught as a child (and subsequently internalized as an adult) can be recognized and reversed.”
“The foundation of the Self Parenting is the daily practice of the Self-Parenting Exercises, a thirty-minute session of cognitive interaction between the Inner Parent and Inner Child. During these daily half-hour sessions Illustrated In the book, the reader learns how to love, support, and nurture his or her Inner Child as well as increase their awareness of the profound implications of their Inner Conversations in the “real world.”
(3) Growing Up Again-Parenting Ourselves by Connie Dawson and Jean Illsley Clarke
Product notes–
“Jean Illsley Clarke and Connie Dawson provide the information every adult caring for children should know–about ages and stages of development, ways to nurture our children and ourselves, and tools for personal and family growth.”
“This new edition also addresses the special demands of parenting adopted children and the problem of overindulgence; a recognition and exploration of prenatal life and our final days as unique life stages; new examples of nurturing, structuring, and discounting, as well as concise ways to identify them; help for handling parenting conflicts in blended families, and guidelines on supporting children’s spiritual growth.”
(4) The 12 Steps to Self-Parenting for Adult Children by Patricia O’Gorman and Philip Oliver-Diaz
Product notes–
“If you are the child of an alcoholic or an adult child who has experienced a traumatic childhood, you can give yourself a second chance for intimacy, fulfillment and joy by Self-Parenting. 12 Steps To Self-Parenting, based on the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, will guide you to nurture your Inner Child so that it may grow into healthy self-acceptance.”
What is Reparenting and How Do We Use It?
I have believed for years that addiction is cured only when we learn how to reparent ourselves, This includes not only healing our inner child but also healing all the children we have within.
I have written the following posts about the inner child and/or reparenting:
Our Inner Child is our Eternal Child
Your Childhood Pain was a Gift
Learn to Listen and Guide Your Inner Voices
Helping Others to Learn Reparenting
According to Dr. Tian Dayton, children who grow up with alcohol or other drug abuse may experience:
• Loss of Trust and Faith Due to deep ruptures in primary, dependency relationships and breakdown of an orderly world.
• Distorted Reasoning Due to convoluted attempts to make sense and meaning out of chaotic, confusing, frightening or painful experience that feels senseless.
• Easily Triggered
• Development of Rigid Psychological Defenses When this person develops long term ‘character armor’ to defend against letting pain in.
• Desire to Self-Medicate When this person attempts to quiet and control their turbulent, troubled inner world through the use of drugs and alcohol or behavioral addictions.This can be part of how addiction gets passed down through the generations.
