Category Archives: Recovery

Addiction Recovery A-Z Links Directory

I updated this entire list August, 2014. If you have suggested links, please email me at Some of the blogs aren’t active but had such good writing that I left them.


ACA/ACOA: Guess what normal is;  Just Be Real;Understanding My Son;  The L.I.S.T.  ACA Group;  Child Abuse Survivor:  Diary of a Recovering Codependent:  Addiction Recovery Blog: The Extraordinary Ordinary:  The Hurt Healer:  Happy, Joyous & Free:  A New Sober Life:  purplepersuasion: Sober Grace:  Adult Children of Alcoholics/ACAsACOAsACODFs Blog: Diary of a Recovering CodependentAnd Everything Afterwards

Addiction Recovery : Nicole Wick; Spiritual River to Recovery; Barefoot Bob’s Collection of Writings: Just For Today: ByeByeBeer: Purifying Grace

Al Anon:I’m Just F.I.N.E–Recovery in Al-AnonThrough an Al-Anon Filter;  Happiness:  al-anon journal:  Thoughts From a Boiled Frog:  Letting Go-Finding Hope Through Al-Anon

Artists in recovery: Attitude of Gratitude; Enchanted Oak

Asperger’s Syndrome (not an addiction): Life with Aspergers (has a great Aspergers blogroll): John SaddingtonPenelope Trunk Blog


Bipolar recovery: BP Magazine:  bipolarburble: Shrink Rap:  Beyond Meds


Child abuse: Child Abuse SurvivorCult of Deception; Blooming Lotus

Christian journey: Covered in Dust; Glass House Ministries; Highway 41: Life in the Fast Lane

Christians living sober: reflections of a ragmuffin; sobernuggets; Sober Julie

Codependency: Diary of a Recovering Codependent:

Committed fathers: The Rabbit Room

Cooking: Find Your Balance; Irish Gumbo

Creativity: 1 door away from heaven


Depression: Beyond Blue; Rusin Roundup; Storied Mind

Domestic abuse: This Sober Life

Drug Addiction Center: Addiction Center

Dual addicted: Enchanted Oak



Faith: A Churchless Faith

Food addiction recovery: Actively Arielle: A Voice With a Commitment; Sassle! My Journey to a Healthier Life!







Healthy living: Find Your Balance

Living a balanced Life: The 4th Avenue Blues

Living in the positive: AHA Moments; Beyond Blue

Living with disability: So about what I said…

LMTs in recovery: Jill Java and the Garden of Eden

Longer term sobriety: Being Sober

Mind mapping: I Q Matrix;  Idea Mapping;  Mind Mapping & Creative ThinkingMind Map Inspiration;  Mind Mapping Blog; The Mindmapping Software Blog

 Mothers in sobriety: A Passion for Jaywalking; My Recovery; Queens World; Stay-at-home-mayhem




Parents of addicts: An Addict in Our Son’s Bedroom

Poetry: Yesterday, Today and Forever

PTSD: The Invisible Wounded; Win Over PTSD; Heal My PTSD; Living With PTSD;



On the recovery journey: Elegant Blessings; Finding My Wings in Life; He Not Busy Being Born is Busy Dying; In Spite of My Crazy Self; Three Routes

Recovery chef: Adventures of One Sober Woman

Recovery Plus Cancer:  My Personal Lens

Recovering in California: Steveroni’s Blog

Recovering in Canada: A Song Not Scored for Breathing; Stay-at-home-mayhem; Sober Julie

Recovering in Illinois: Wait. What?

Recovering in Texas: higher powered

Recovery support communities: The Junkies’ Wives Club; The Sober Village

Reparenting: Guess what normal is; Way Station One


Sexual abuse: Come Into My Closet; Victory Over Sexual Abuse; Cult of Deception

Sexual addiction recovery: A Room of Mamas Own;  Woman. Anonymous7

Sober blogs directory: Sober Blogs

Sober in the military:  Healing Imperfectly


12 step help: Recovery Archive;




Working in recovery: Stop. Drop. Recover.; Spiritual River

Writing help: Pictures, Poetry and Prose; The One-Minute Writer




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ACOA is the Best Place to Unlearn Negative Emotional Patterns

ReunitedAlthough I never forgot that I was going to AA as a recovering alcoholic, my recovery changed over the years to encompass new learnings and teachings.

In 1976, when I came to AA, there were few female members. In my 3rd month of recovery, I had a profound spiritual experience which I have related in here. I quickly learned to shut up about God in 12 step meetings as many members wanted to talk about alcohol only. Being female and a God person almost insured that I wouldn’t have a lot of group acceptance.

The focus for my recovery took a profound change in direction when I discovered ACOA. I have never “forgot” that I am first and foremost an alcoholic and am deeply grateful to be in recovery. Nor have I ever considered myself as recovered. These beliefs about myself have helped me to stay centered and focused on recovery.

ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics) has gone through several name changes. In 1977, (one year after the beginning in my recovery in 1976), a group of Al-Anon members realized that they were all children of alcoholics. This was the beginning of ACOA. In later years, ACOA became ACA and/or COA.

Up until 1983, any Al-Anon meeting I attended was to help heal that child inside me who grew up in a very troubled family. But when I shared at Al-Anon meetings about my alcoholism, I felt a subtle change in the group of some members feeling that I didn’t belong in an Al-Anon meeting.

But when I found ACOA or ACA meetings, I immediately knew that I belonged because they talked about feelings. I continued to be completely committed to my recovery with AA groups. But the AA groups were male-dominated groups whose members seemed to be proud of how far they had fallen to their bottoms. So I started attending ACOA and Codependents Anonymous as well as AA.

However, although I have tried for years to be part of several 12 step groups, the meetings bore me. Before you hang me out to dry, I have actively worked on my recovery program daily since Nov. 24, 1976. The 12 steps are the foundation for my life and I actively work on them every day of my life.

So, what I learned from ACA is that the ACA Red Book gave me the blueprint to heal the negative emotional patterns I had learned in childhood. It was more important to me than any book I had ever read about recovery. I came to see that growing up in a home dominated by alcoholism overshadowed every other experience I had as a child. So my primary addiction healing had to be changing those ways I had learned to cope in a family torn apart by a substance one family member chose to use to control his feelings of helplessness. Alcohol was in charge and we all learned ways to bend to its control.

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