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Gratitude Quick Links for 11/26/09

Breezeway by FotoDawg

Breezeway by FotoDawg

My 33rd AA birthday is November 24, 2009, but I always celebrate my recovery date on Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving Day, 1976 was the last time I drank alcohol so I have much to be grateful for every day. I have received the wonderful gift of my Constant Companion, the God of my understanding, and the wonderful love and support of my home group, Margate Cokesbury Group. Thanks to all of you for helping me through the worst six months of my life.

I have recently learned about creating a gratitude alphabet list. I really liked this idea because I could keep it current with changes as I experience them.

Some quick links about gratitude:

(1)  The Secret Power of Gratitude and How to Get It

“Finding a sense of purpose can be as easy as doing what makes you happy. I found that living a life based on spiritual principles and helping others as much as I can makes me happy. That life is not a search for happiness but a by-product of right living. I used to think I had to change the world, you know, really make a difference! Today I look for my life purpose each and every day. My morning prayer is, “God, show me what you will have me do today and give me the strength and willingness to carry it out.” When I approach each day with this attitude, anything is possible!”

(2)  From Get Rich Slowly, a review of Happier which is a  book by Tai Ben-Shahar who teaches a class at Harvard about positive psychology. He lists these as exercises to encourage happiness:

  • Create rituals. Ben-Shahar urges readers to do the things they love: reading, walking, gaming, knitting, whatever. But because it can be difficult to make time for these activities, he argues that we should create rituals around them. At a specific time every day, do the thing you love. For example, I’ve recently made it a ritual to walk a couple of miles to have lunch most afternoons. This makes me happy.
  • Express gratitude. I don’t do this enough. Research indicates that you can enjoy a heightened sense of well being by keeping a daily gratitude journal. Just jot down five things you’re grateful for every day. It’s okay to repeat yourself from one day to the next. This exercise forces you to become conscious of the good things in your life.
  • Set meaningful goals. When I was younger, I set goals that had little relation to who I was or what I wanted. I set goals based on what I felt was expected of me. For a goal to be worthwhile, it has to be related to your own interests. And it has to add something to your life. Pursuing meaningful goals can bring happiness to your life. (And note that it’s the pursuit of the goals that brings happiness, not the attainment of them.)
  • Play to your strengths. Ben-Shahar is a fan of Appreciative Inquiry. (That website is awful, by the way — it’s written in jargon.) Appreciative Inquiry ignores the things that do not work and looks instead what has been successful. By focusing on past positive outcomes, you can build upon your strengths. Do what you’re good at. (This reminds me of Tim Ferriss’ philosophy in The 4-Hour Workweek: “Emphasize your strengths, not your weaknesses.”)
  • Simplify. Ben-Shahar writes: “To raise our levels of well-being, there is no way around simplifying our lives. This means safeguarding our time, learning to say ‘no’ more often — to people as well as opportunities — which is not easy. It means prioritizing, choosing activities that we really, really want to do, while letting go of others.” As Derek Sivers recently wrote on his blog, if an opportunity doesn’t make you say “hell yeah!”, you’re better off saying “no”.

(3)  Marelisa Fabrega on her blog, Abundance Blog at Marelisa Online, lists these lessons from The Science of Getting Rich (Part Three):

(a)Get rid of the thought of competition

(b)  The importance of gratitude

(c)  The role of your will

Weight Loss Quick Links for 9/02/09

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Putrajaya Fiesta 2009 by

Permanent Weight Loss: The Truth

“So if cosmetic reasons are not enough of a motivating factor for losing weight, knowing that it can severely impact your health might be. Although wanting to look good in your summer bikini might be a short term motivator it may not be enough to really compel you to make lasting changes to your lifestyle. Focusing on the risks to your health is a more serious matter that requires major changes and commitment to losing weight.”

“This leads into the next point which is that most people go on short term diets rather than committing to making lasting changes to their lifestyle. When the focus is on temporary diets, any short term weight loss usually doesn’t last and people gain the weight back. Diets focused on the short term are also not a lot of fun and many people end up abandoning them before reaching their goals.”

Better Health Through Fasting

“The restrictions–both caloric and behaviorally–can be good for us holistically because they serve as a means for disciplining ourselves all-year-around in a world in which we are too often self-absorbed and overindulgent. Fasting serves as a spiritual check, reminding us about issues of poverty and clean water supplies in the world and encouraging us to avoid overeating and wasting food. After all, way too much food ends up in garbage cans.”

Obesity Solutions- -Fat Loss 4 Idiots–A Quick Diet Plan

“Going on a quick diet plan can certainly help you in your efforts to lose weight. It would however not lead to lasting weight loss unless it is aided by a healthy lifestyle. It is plain logic, what is the use of going on a diet, losing some weight and then revert back to your “normal” diet of fast food and sugary soft drinks. Your weight loss aspirations are doomed to failure and you have wasted your time and money!”