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Serenity Prayer and Links

The following definition of the serenity prayer is taken from Wikipedia–

“The Serenity Prayer is the common name for an originally untitled prayer written by the theologian Reinhold Niebuhr in the 1930s or early 1940s.

Niebuhr seems to have written the prayer for use in a sermon, perhaps as early as 1934 (the date given in Bartlett’s Familiar Quotations, 16th edn., ed. Justin Kaplan, 1992, p. 684), perhaps in the early 1940s.

Elisabeth Sifton’s book The Serenity Prayer (2003) quotes this version as the authentic original:

“God, give us grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed, courage to change the things that should be changed, and the wisdom to distinguish the one from the other.”

The earliest verifiable printed texts so far discovered are an approximate version (apparently quoted from memory) in a query in the “Queries and Answers” column in The New York Times Book Review, July 12, 1942, p. 23, which asks for the author of the quotation; and a reply in the same column in the issue for August 2, 1942, p. 19, where the quotation is attributed to Niebuhr and an unidentified printed text is quoted as follows:

“O God and Heavenly Father,
Grant to us the serenity of mind to accept that which cannot be changed; the courage to change that which can be changed, and the wisdom to know the one from the other, through Jesus Christ our Lord, Amen.”

The prayer became widely known when it was adopted in modified form by Alcoholics Anonymous; an AA magazine, The AA Grapevine, identified Niebuhr as the author (January 1950, pp. 6-7), and the AA web site continues to identify Niebuhr as the author.”

Links for serenity:

1.  From Through an Al-Anon Filter: “Acceptance”:

“So, back to the train station of our minds – we can stand back from the platform’s edge, and watch the trains come in – where’s this one going?  High-speed train to anger and frustration, no stops along the way; think I’ll wait for a later one. Here comes a poky old steam train going to serenity and peace, with many stops to allow others to board, takes a scenic route - this train I’m going to ride.”

2, From Sober Nuggets: “affirmation”:

“ I know that for me, I must find peace and serenity (especially in the face of difficulties and challenges/opportunities).  I didn’t come to A.A. to be miserable, I came because I already was miserable.  If I were still miserable, I’d more than likely find myself drinking and drugging again.  It has been years (thank God) since I’ve come to meetings in order to avoid drinking or drugging.  Now I come to meetings to maintain some sense of balance and serenity in my life.”

“Today, I ask God for guidance in all I do, try to see His Grace in my life and then live it out.  I’ll ask again later and probably again after that because I am a “slow learner and a fast forgetter.”  Today I know God is with me, through the Holy Spirit, through the people I encounter and in the Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous.  I merely need to remain open to His will, willing to do it and honest about myself and my motives.”

3.  From Being Sober: “Sunday Morning Meeting”:

“Someone else later in my sobriety told me something I have never heard anyone else say.  That it is not only important to do the right thing, but also to give the appearance of doing the right thing.  It sounded crazy until I really considered what that meant.”"In the above case – it is not only important to BE sober, but it is important to have my life LOOK like I am sober.  I can’t inspire the trust of my friends and relatives if I am still acting like a nut.  I shouldn’t make my friends and family worry about my sanity or sobriety if I can help it, unless it is appropriate that they worry”.”So, it is important to me that I do things like make my bed every morning.  That I do the dishes as soon as the meal is over.  That I pay my bills on time.  That I keep my car maintained and clean.  That I look as good as I can every day”.

“I used to say that I never stole anything – then I realized that when I was drinking I had stolen my family’s peace of mind.  I try to make sure I never do that again – at least not needlessly.”"It is a gift from God to be sober.  I need to appreciate that every day.  The best way to show my gratitude is with a little bit of care and feeding.”

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Letting Go of Negativity Frees up Energy

Brooklyn Bridge Waterfalls by Epicharamus

Brooklyn Bridge Waterfalls by Epicharamus

Every day we have choices to be happy. Everything we hold on to that is negativity saps our energy. This post includes several quotations about letting go. One of the best books that I’ve read about letting go was written by Hugh Prather.

The Little Book of Letting Go: A Revolutionary 30-day Program to Cleanse Your Mind, Lift Your Spirit and Replenish Your Soul

Hugh Prather

ISBN 157324-503-8

Amazon link

In a review of this book, “the contents for letting go include problems, fear of letting go, worry, our first reaction, motivation through crisis, money anxiety and travel worries, anticipated and unanticipated emotions, victim-perception, word magic, stories, neglect, fear of happiness, t-thoughts; I, me, and mine; outcomes, relationship battles you aren’t having, useless blocks to relationship, sticky thoughts, gloom, rigid responses and limited answers, “turning it over”, scattered thinking, blame and damage, body thoughts, t-thoughts, spiritual attainment, “higher” path, “spiritual” laws of success, our personal struggle.”

“Live riotously. It is foolish to sit around waiting for the collector when the collector may be late. Baseball coach Yogi Berra taught us that “It’s not over till it’s over.” And if… the New Testament, Buddha, and the Koran are right, it may not be over even then. You’ll either be with your pals in paradise or you won’t feel a thing.”   David Brown

“The most important words in midlife are—Let Go. Let it happen to you. Let it happen to your partner. Let the feelings. Let the changes…You are moving out of roles and into the self…It would be surprising if we didn’t experience some pain as we leave the familiarity of one adult stage for the uncertainty of the next. But the willingness to move through each passage is equivalent to the willingness to live abundantly. If we don’t change; we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we are not really living.”   Gail Sheehy

“Surrender means, by definition, giving up attachment to results. When we have an attachment to results, we tend to have a hard time giving up control.”   Marianne Williamson